Dave Martin | Sports + stupidity ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Communication (at least verbal) is incredibly ineffective. For example, when one person says ‘I love you’ it might mean ‘You are the person I enjoy being with’ but if the other says it they may mean ‘If I lost you, I wouldn’t be able to live.’ Those two things are dramatically different. And therefore the consequences of any actions that affect…
We often take shortcuts (which sometimes are necessary), and let our imagination run wild. But if you find yourself bothered about something someone did and them making an assumption about why you think they did it… Stop. And ask yourself: What evidence do I have of this actually being true? 2. Is it possible that I am wrong? That what I…
What’s one of the things that underlies many of our most common fears? They’re irrational. What’s another? They often are unsubstantiated and often don’t actually happen. And the same goes for worrying that if you speak up, ask question that some might think is ‘stupid’, or do something wrong you’ll look stupid. Firstly, someone’s opinion of you is exactly that:…
The days of thinking of time as a river—evenly flowing, always advancing—are over. Time perception, just like vision, is a construction of the brain and is shockingly easy to manipulate experimentally. – David Eagleman Your perception of time does not rely on mathematical markers such as days, minutes, hours etc. It relies on your perception. And specifically of your perception…
When you’re asked something, or you need to make a decision, is the one that’s truly the best for you, based on your understanding of yourself and what you truly want the one that comes to you straight away? Without a conscious thought. If someone asks you your opinion on something or what you want to do about something, Bang.…
If you’re saying good bye to someone going back to their country, to a relationship, to a holiday that’s ending, or to a different period of life that will soon be different, there is no in between. There is no ‘They’re leaving.’ There is no ‘It’s ending.’ There is no ‘We’re leaving.’ Something either is or it isn’t. There is no transitional phase. When…
Say you have to choose between living the life you want, and compromising the things that you value most, just to alleviate your fear of regretting things in the future, or fearing that you’ll make the wrong decision… So, this is scenario 1: If you first thing deeply about understanding yourself, then you’re honest with yourself, and respectful of those who…
What do we actually need? Well, this song, and specifically Soja, have an idea of what… And thanks to one of my students, Marcela who translated Falcão’s verse so beautifully and poetically from Portuguese, this is what Falcão thinks we do… Look for your dreams, your intentions, Open your mind for your heart, Wake the transformation of hundreds to millions, Because, if…
You know the ants walking around doing their thing in parks, yards, fields all over the place, right… do they bother you? Most likely no. But say a few ants intrude on your turf, invade your house and get into your kitchen, are all up on your benchtop, crawling all around your stove, getting into your food and –at least–…
If you have to make a tough decision, one that you fear –or maybe fear possibly regretting– use your understanding of what makes you happy (and what doesn’t) to initiate tough, possibly uncomfortable conversations to have. If you follow your understanding of what makes you happy now you can’t make a mistake. Otherwise, hope that you’re making the right decision based on…