Dave Martin | Sports + stupidity ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
If you just chose to not be scared of dying alone, not meeting someone, not having kids, getting ugly, getting old, not finding a job you like, not being remembered one day (any of those), not living alone, and chose to make this your one and only goal ‘to live’ wouldn’t you be content and satisfied for the rest of your…
When you’re a kid, your vocabulary is limited to what you have learned so far. But with each significant period (1 year, 2 years, 5 years) you expand on that vocab, and upon your experience exponentially. But you’re perception of what upsets you, hurts you, scares you is restricted by how you process it in words. So though you may…
This is a deep dive into the emotion that possibly decides more things in our life (or our whole life?): Fear. ——— How many times have you stopped yourself from asking a question you were wondering, started a conversation with someone you wanted to or even from just saying hi to someone? Maybe never, so well done. But if you…
What’s one of the things that underlies many of our most common fears? They’re irrational. What’s another? They often are unsubstantiated and often don’t actually happen. And the same goes for worrying that if you speak up, ask question that some might think is ‘stupid’, or do something wrong you’ll look stupid. Firstly, someone’s opinion of you is exactly that:…
If you have to make a tough decision, one that you fear –or maybe fear possibly regretting– use your understanding of what makes you happy (and what doesn’t) to initiate tough, possibly uncomfortable conversations to have. If you follow your understanding of what makes you happy now you can’t make a mistake. Otherwise, hope that you’re making the right decision based on…
When you think about how many couples get married and divorced, and how many in relationships that involve cheating, lying, infidelity etc.. why does this happen? Now, sure there are most likely a lot of relationships that involve none of the above, and actually are based completely on trust and mutual respect and sensitivity, but is it possible that some…
It’s possible that fear plays a part in ALL our decisions we make. Even a little bit. Fear of future regret, fear of missing out, fear of not doing or being someone we want to, fear of not being approved of or resepected or fear of being embarrassed. Etc. etc. BUT, with proper understanding (or at least working at it…
We often fear the unknown. In fact, maybe most of our fears are about things that might happen. Or maybe not. So if you’re tossing up a decision between one thing or another, especially when it’s between two things you value, imagine both of them (independently). Picture it in microscopic detail, what do you look like, what do you feel like, where…
This is a deep dive into the emotion that possibly decides more things in our life (or our whole life?): Fear. Here’s part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5 and part 6. I don’t have any kids. And I don’t want any that bad either. But I’m 35 and male so it’s not a problem yet (and…
That thing you’re avoiding doing, that conversation you’re avoiding having, that decision you’re afraid to make… do it. Now. Before you do it, you are chained to fear of it, and fear and paralysis from inaction and the status quo. Be honest with yourself and with the people in your life (even if it leads to a more difficult situation…